She was already rather fragile to begin with. Usually the one word hides deep and sometimes painful feelings and attitudes. I know we both need time to heal and 8 months might not be enough, but I fear if I leave too much space and dont try hard to get her back she will move on and I will never be with her again. You can check the GoodTherapy.org directory for someone in your area here:https://www.goodtherapy.org/find-therapist.html. We got back together but this November came around and we are seperated. I cant find myself to accept him seeing this friend and it hurts me all the time. I do love him and I know it hurt him, but i still want to fight for us. I decided to lock away my feelings for this time period, crying or feeling sorry for myself wouldnt help my marriage. Thanks for the advice Dr. Deb! I tried to tell him how hurt I was but he felt if he showed me he loved me then I shouldnt worry about his crazy ex. Simply walking off into the sunrise & never turning back. I have been ducking calls from my siblings and friends as they will ask me how I am doing and not good is not what I want to tell them,in case tings do turn around I dont want them looking differently towards my wife if they knew what pain she caused me. Talking dirty to each other and sending nude pictures back and forth. Trust cannot be mended by him saying he will never do the things he did again, especially when he has already been caught and it brought us to counseling. But you do have to understand that since I am crazy busy, if people want to jump in and help each other, then I dont need to always weigh in. These are the new things that you will be able to talk about. Then i screwed up. He has made his choice of drugs and drop kick friends over me and his kids. I dont know what to do. It is hard to do but move on, take the pain and be patient. Unfortunately, I never completed those grievances. Take it from someone whos been around over twice as long as you and have been betrayed more than once. Id appreciate that. she said shes forgiven me but doesnt think well ever be together again. Ive lost his trust. But its so far gone, that even fixing it is painful. She lives with her baby father basically because of accommodation but she doesnt want me to have any lady. I try to tell him Im doing fine, I keep busy and having a social life. get him on (
[email protected] m). It should make us more sympathetic to the plight of others. Sometimes I would just be short over minor issues. I told him this week that I am in love with him, something I wished I had never said, it seems that Ive changed everything. He still doesnt sleep when he has it and still hurts so I see it as being an excuse to get high. I took a minute to reply, but told him I dont want you to leave. He told her he missed the good times. He was very light-hearted around her at each meeting & I could see his colour rise & the change in his voice & body language towards her whenever we visited. What can I do to convince her to take a chance with me? I was in love. While hes been nothing but open, honest, and loving, I managed to let my past color my view of him, and treated him in a way that would normally be directed toward my exes. Trust is easy to break, but difficult to build back up. The challenges you face in your marriage might leave you feeling like the union is over and that it's time to separate. I am working very hard on not talking about us ad nauseam and becoming friends again first. Hi Kelly, Then of course, there is learning to express your needs and tell the difference between your needs and wants. Now she lives with her baby father although she doesnt like it there 100%. She invited me to a wedding months ago and said the clothing was informal. I knew I had lost him. Im im a relationship for 2 years now. We have no children but know we want to fix our marriage. He said he hit his breaking point and he needed to leave the relationship. Its like I think hes magically going to change one day into the perfect gentlemen I first met and well be a happy family like Ive always wanted. And I was so heartbroken I said things I shouldnt have said but I still did not tell him that I loved him so much. I want to be the rock she can lean on.. I still feel hurt and betrayed by my ex and sometimes i still cry about it or feel down about it. My ex and I have been together for pretty much 4 years. He has already talked to his job about coming home more and he has scheduled an appointment with a therapy counselor. It is necessary for a couple to understand this and this problem should be healed before marriage. He has kids and I have a kid. You have to take care of yourself, even if it means breaking your own heart. Of course he doesnt c it this way. I cheated and had sex with several men. Then I spoke with the co worker one on one and she told me she will back off but my husband is not going to change his mind or how he feels. She is the one doing all that. My girlfriend had been cheated on in her last relationship and she did not believe me when I told her it didnt happen. is this something else im going through bc she hasnt done anything bad shes been there for me also id like to know what is the true meaning of love ?? No one.. Hi. He slowly opened back up to me and after 4 months I got a I love you from him, which frankly shocked me into speechlessness. I you loved them once, you can surely love them again. This situation has hurt me deeply. Its just the knowing he doesnt really like them as much that was making me feel guilty. Mom and son- value other things over you during your relationship. Sitting at a table in our garden with every candle lit & blinking invitingly; scattered around our garden table; sharing a bottle of wine together & a take-out pizza whilst writing our vows & dreams to each other on a note-pad over ice-cream & hot coffee .. would have been magical. What I can say definitely is that if you learn mindfulness, it will be more powerful than medication to reduce your stress levels and depression. Heres the thing: You actually dont know who your husband IS and neither does he. Ps. She said she still loves me but does not want anything to do with me anymore. For sure though, do not start a new relationship when youre in an old one. I actually told her that her feelings for him were just infatuation and they werent real. Sure, what he did was wrong. 5: Another idea among the 15 ideas for a perfect first date is to do something that will make her laugh Thousands of questions fill the mind of a woman who has been raped by the man of her affections. When I said this is what therapy is for an objective outsider, I will add that a therapist is a competent objective outsider. He just kinda gave up on me when i was in a bad place. YOU HURT ME! I can see I broke his heart, he has said he still loves but I did so much of the same things over and over again that he isnt as crazy about me as he was in the beginning. Then, when our bucket is full it is easier not to count: did he do this for me? Seven months ago, a man that I knew messages me and we began talking. Then at that point you just gotta see if youre compatible with each other. Dated some but nothing serious. Im so confused, lonely and lost right now. When we are not happy or satisfied we seek it in whatever form we can find. No single flower. My head ( and my friend) tells me to move on, I deserve way better but my heart is not cooperating. I love him very much,, i think i did for the past years but not anymore One thing that bothers me is that i cant break up whith him and i dont know why Even though iv fallen out of love in him. I really like this girl and understand what she is going through. Show them why something is the way it is. "It was," the 36-year-old Sydneysider says now, "a challenging journey through life. Yet, of course, there is an equal fear of being alone, so the couple sets up rules just like the one you and your hubby seem to have: dont leave, but dont be too close either. He hates head games. So I understand that and it hurts me but Im not mad at her or him for it. Since then (start of october) we tried traveling together for 3 weeks to nepal, subletting anapartment together (we got out of ours in october) and i cant seem to make it work, im restless, im crying every day a few times. He feels like I dont show him that I love him and it makes me sad because I do but I know deep down its the hurt thats caused me to become so guarded and cold towards him. He was very emotionally and verbally abusive for a long time. I say nice things and try and do nice things and I feel they arent appreciated. It was difficult him being there. Id say I can go with you and hed say naw you cool Ill just go), and he doesnt want us riding in the same car. My heart misses her. I want her back and I know its going to be a process. We have two children with our third on the way. After a week if this I pressed her into telling me what was wrong and she finally said that she isnt happy. Anyway, I seem to want he tot forgive me, make up her mind to make this work no matter what, and move on. Do you have any suggestions or help you can provide? Of course Ive been tested and done all the practical things but the guilt is why I suffer because he is a wonderful person and did not deserve that. It seems like he doesnt love me anymore and that hes just not trying to save this relationship. I said no you come in. He feels like he was also hurt when I travelled alone so he doesnt feel like he has to prove himself much to get me back. Give it some time, work on myself, let her work on herself and then try to slowly contact her then? Hi Thomas I was lonely. This is adult conversation which shes been avoiding months long. I am an Iraq war vet suffering from PTS and Im dealing with that on top of this new news. 3 years later Ive kept it to myself and never told him. He hated the city, the job.. and me. He/she must acquire the skill of patience. So its important to trust his/her judgment or their feeling that they do not want to input their opinion. Hi Erin. for 3 years everything was going awesome we were so in love seeing eachother all the time and always doing everything together and hanging out at the same friends house and then we started arguing about non sense and getting really jelous of eachother when nothing was even happening i sorta decided i got bored/tired of it and i broke up with her. Or mayb im sick Help plz. But if you made a habit of lying and getting caught, that would explain why your ex hates you. Depression I put her threw. Just in June we were looking at engagment rings. Hes been begging for 2 wees now. He claims hes a changed man and that he will do anything to prove to me that he really loves me. Wife dont have time to put in with all other thing.. Hi, Itll take a lot of work to repair the damage and build trust back to almost where it was. I came back a few months later and life was good really good then one day he asked me to find an email with some info on it he needed for work. We might need help to get through. Not a hastily written note of love on a paper napkin. He said that they were at the pharmacy then going to see a moviehe said we could do out date on sundayi was so mad and hurt. Is it possoble and whar should I do. We got into a small argument a teo months ago that turned into something big and I left the house for about a week. Or, you could have lied about finances, friends, your whereabouts, or anything at all. I feel so bad for what I have done to this woman that I truly love and respect! The first 3 years were great. We would go a few days or a week being normal but it always came up, and to be honest she never TRULY believed me. He is not a doer. I dont want to lose him or his girls. He is dishonest and you will not trust him again unless he is under the care of a therapist. Im trying to be nice every now and then but he gets so sensitive and blows up at the slightest thing i do. I really could use your help please. I feel the same. You are on the right track. Were in a long distance relationship and for the past year, Ive been treating him like a dog. I wish he had been honest, fought for me. It is harder to curse someone after you have asked God to bless them. I know its as much time as he needs but I wish that I could have some idea of what that is, what is typical. She may may trying a way to get my attention. So she went back home I tried to communicate with her and work through problems. Thats what my ex did to me. we were recently told by her mother that she and her grandma will be moving down to Texas( this is her only family keep in mind.) You may have felt too low a sense of self-esteem to select properly the first time so you would benefit from work on your self esteem. He wont believe me. In a weird way I am hoping this will bring is closer. It wasnt until recently, after my last attempt to make (and change her to suit my needs) her realize these things, and assuring her that I wanted to work on our marriage, that she told me that she didnt know if it was worth it. During our arguments it takes drastic verbal damage for us to stop and realize. I asked If we could speak. I see my fault as well as I am a passionate person who tends to dramatize sometimes and he always wanted me to listen more to what he is saying. I ended up realizing I wasnt just angry, I was fearful. Suddenly, her love turned to hate. He used to be a very emotional manhe would cry sometimes just because he loved me so much. On the other hand there are people who cheat once theyre married. I was hurt because I dont know why she brought him into the picture. Try also to work to support yourself and finish school. I just cant trust him fully I always feel hell do something to me again. So, after 16 months, I have pushed him away for good. We were together, but not technically, for a while due to the fact that I was staying with my mom a few hours away. Man. The therapist even gave him an opening to walk away, close the door forever. Heres why: The falling in love kind of love, not the familial love that you have, say, for your parents or children, is about receiving. The way shr did from the beggining, wherr i messed up was i would call her names and yell at her but then i changed my ways all late when the love was gone ): Hi Bell we tried to end things on numerous occasions but because we felt so deeply about each other, we continued. And flirted but nothing physical and if I wasnt high I would never dream if doing that. We are now on a break and I am wondering if there is a way to get back the butterflies or if we have had too much of a damaging relationship to ever repair it. Over time I joined a car club. eventually, I came to my senses and told her how I felt. How could I move on?? We have been divorced since 2007 and we still went back and forth trying to make it work but prior to getting married, I had called off a traditional church wedding (which case was what his mother wanted to begin with/interfering in-laws) but back to the point. My boyfriend and I have been together for 5 years, 2.5 years long distance. I had to go to her friend and her friend said that she went through the same thing that I am going through. When he ended up marrying someone else I was beyond heartbroken. Now, I wont hear from him until almost the end of the day and thats it. I had a girlfriend the first time I met her and the relationship with my then-girfriend wasnt going anywhere. She got mad and asked me why I would do that and dont we both deserve to be happy if things cant be fixed. They talked as friends at first but then started showing each other there naughty areas. Now we're married.". So I started chatting with his cousin. 5 days passed and no word. This is the most important question of all. I have verbally abused my girlfriend and destroyed her emotionally, but she still loves me and says that she is confused about what she wants to do with us and mentions that only time will tell. The first time, you just opened yourself up and there it was. Thank you so much. I take full responsibility for my actions and am deeply sorry and I will truly do anything to have a second chance with her. We had our petty fights, but nothing serious until we had a pregnancy scare. He has texted me everyday since I moved out about mostly neutral things but hes still making contact. Feelings count! Ignoring me treating me like I wasnt wanted and that I was in the way of his family. I described another guy as beautiful and he got jealous and felt betrayed. I so crushed and heartbroken right now. I and my boyfriend were in relationship from 4 years.. I yelled at him. at the time i was being stupid and i thought i could do anything. In addition, he was chatting up another girl, hoping to meet up with her. I was upset seeing tears running down like infant. I confronted him and I was absolutely done but I was still in a lot of pain and he then would send me long messages every morning (like this one ) trying to apologie and asking for one more chance and etc it was a huge blow out. What I found most interesting about was u said was that I dont love his character? I can tell she has changed. He seems to be in selfish state of mind and thats okay, but dont call me friend or tell others that you still want to marry me and dont even act like it. I have been dating my boyfriend for 2mnths now..I stay in Nigeria while he stays in the U.S. But my boyfriend and i decided to try and fix things. The problem is that Ive been so hurt so manyttimes that now Im discouraged of trying one more time. We have two girls ages 5 & 9. Alone. Its possible for a person to make mistakes in life we all do- but if we LEARN from them, were better than we were before. He is not a bad person at all, and I believe that his mistakes are just a manifestation of his past. No man should ever cheat on a woman and actually brag about it to her face. Her feelings came back soon after and she moved back in with me, however there were a few situations, not outright physical abuse, but still hurtful things that had happened. We have both suffered from depression but I forgive, and have friends now who have hurt me badly in the past. The can't-live-with-you-can't-live-without-you energy is exhausting especially for the people in their lives who have to deal with the constant ups and downs knowing that it's unlikely to get better. I asked for a sit down with her to discuss our problems. One day we had a short argument. We even went to breakfast together when the kids (mine and hismy daughter is in college) were in town. Then a long distance relationship for 6 months and more recently a 4 month relationship. Long story short my husband suffered from sever depression and I stuck with him thru thick and thin. In my heart we were true soulmates. We separated for 2 and a half years and during that time I did what I needed to rebuild my life and self-esteem. But first, let me say Im sorry if I was harsh. First boyfriend, literally everything. Despite the meds shes taking, reached orgasm for the first time since starting them. He was very upset and angry with me and he thought we were breaking up. He agreed to reconcile 2 separate times but just couldnt do it. It looks to me like you are taking good steps your husb has a therapist and is getting alcohol counseling. I can tell she cares because she brings up the past, she says she loves me but doesnt wanna be with me. Long story short. That is what I meant by sexy. I cant ever tell him because once I told him Id kissed another guy and he couldnt take it.I cant imagine telling him I had sex with more than a few guyshe would die or kill someonemy question iswhat do I do??? she She doesnt want no for answer. Hi Sue#1 He stated he did it for emotional comfort. I do indeed miss my former spouse and best friend. He lost all contact with his ex fiance. When the cheating happened, I did not go out looking to cheat or meet someone else. True, you were just kids at the time. He told me months ago that we were headed towards this and I said Id stop the bad behaviors, but I didnt. In my heart I just get the feeling I let her down and she wont give me a second chance. Your spouse might be hurt, too. We had fights often, usually from a small disagreement that always blew up into a massive arguement that left us bitter as we always said hurtful things. So I gave her money every week for 2 yrs straight. Also the American Association for Marriage & Family Therapy (aamft.org) has information. Im not a quiter but maybe im going too far? When we do communicate a little its always about the same things: school and work. I was very ungrateful towards him. Hi Ashley Dont go to a psychoanalytic type as that is a lifetime of therapy. So he cheated. So I was angry at myself and expressed it towards others. i have been in a relationship since 2years . He was sexted other woman for 7 to 9 months. I need help. I also wonder whether the depression you feel has any connection to all of the above. I know that will sound just the opposite of what it seems so let me explain: People use sex as a way to AVOID a real relationship. Hey Marshall, I think you sound like a man who is truly dedicated to his wife. The emotional connection I had with him is gone. I was scared and acted in fear by shouting at him and hitting him on his back repeatedly saying that being his wife didnt give him the right to treat me like that. The other was a semi-sexual relationship with a friend of his that I personally know is a bit of an attention seekershes hit on me more than once. So you have allowed one person into your inner world, in the course of being together, and each step of the way you felt understood. A lot of my self worth and the way I give and receive love is tied up in physical validation. Well during one argument, he asks me whos thing was bigger. With that being said I was very controlling, checked his phone/email/facebook constantly, I didnt trust him and every girl he associated with I said he was trying to get with her. One of his stops was a couple hours away from her house, she drove to him and they had sex in the cab of his truck. I am now forced to move on without him and even though it hurts more than anything Ive ever felt..There is a small sense of relief..I no longer have to wait for him to hurt me anymore, much less see him day in and day out with the knowledge he thinks Im alot of bad things. How do we both stop the non sense??? I do like him a lot but i dont love him or feel that i love him. the disrespect continued and many other emotionally damaging things happened over the next several years. He proposed to me at the end of the month and we had plans on getting married until I found out he was still talking to the other woman about a week ago or so. I tell her I wanna drop everything and start fresh. Did i mention he just got out? I blew him off when he opened up to me. Wow, thats awful. I am in an awesome mood at work. He was still talking to his ex fiance after we moved. Thats why I went there. Perhaps she is not sure how to tell you its over? But eventually ended with drawn out, heart felt goodbyes to one another. I felt I could trust her enough to give her the chance to show me if this was going to be different. You share interests, get . Now my trust in him never recuperated so I checked his phone and found sext msgs to and from a coworker. Do you think I can redeem myself or not? Why did I say something so bloody stupid?! Now it was this time I realized how much I loved her. You need to look nice and be comfortable in the clothes you are wearing because you have to be yourself throughout the date. If both people in a relationship can open thier minds to understand that there is nothing but Love in our classroom we are all living in, then healing happens and the heart is the winner for both. I think Ive been showing them that Ive changed, but I think he believes Im only acting like this because were not in a relationship. hes attracted to me? But the fact that she cheated is haunting her. I was gutted and a we had a few arguments in consecutive days. He moved four months before us, I was scared to move and told him I wasnt sure if I wanted to move or to be with him. I know many of you ladies behave, especially taking advantage of guy who loves you. My mind immediately snapped to a point where everything was plain to see and I decided to go to anger management. im loosing my best Friend, soulmate and the love of my life, my home, ive no Friends to speak of, no job? I call her about an hour after the first argument, I apologize and tell her that I made a huge mistake in arguing about my clothing, she thanks me for the apology, but says shes not taking me, even though I said I could go, dress formally and had apologized. Words alone wont do it; its actions that matter. I find myself cautious about my feelings for him and without him really saying and based on our conversations, I am thinking his feelings are guarded as well. we still live under the same roof. but i really dont want to loose him dr. i would do anything to make him smile. I just wonder if im being honest with myself and her about where i am emotionally. I moved to my mothers the next day. But none of these reasons are actually to do with my husband. She lives next door with a guy and told my BF that we should switch partners. This means that it is the perfect opportunity for your date to see what kind of man you really are because if she sees that you can relax, then theres a good chance she will as well. And our relationship is still weak. But then in October, he broke up with me again. Im trying to get the feelings back? He was manipulative, and probably a sociopath. Im confused. I became happy again! I also, have a temper & it stems from hurt feelings and I can admit that I reacted instead of having a mature response and when I want to talk about things I wanted to discuss it then, not wait but since weve both grown upI realize that he is a man that I do want to try and see if we can work it out.otherwise I am not just going to be an ex-wife who comes over eats & has sex with a man if this is not going anywhere for us both. Thank you. What Im concerned about is that shes going to call me for rescue if something happens. Hes the first person Ive truly loved and treated me correctly. She just cant hold to long. He let me read there talks and they seemed to be just friends. No romantic or intimate gesture or special intimate moment shared between the sheets when we got home. In that moment without realizing it I hurt my husband in a way it dont know if I can ever repair. I said that we can make it work if she just talks to me, but she has to want it. He also said that if he didnt cheat, I would have been the one to cheat. Falling in love is heavenly, falling out is like being in hell. He showed me true regret for his actions this weekend, but today, I am so scared. People in the band began to call him names like security cause he wanted to be everywhere I was & didnt want to give me a small little space , I mean ? Any advice from you? Dear Dr Deb Like u did. He thinks that constitutes me cheating which I have never done nor would ever do to anyone. Until it did. It drives me crazy that I cannot prove absolutely everything to him that Im faithful only to him. This is the most painful thing Ive ever beenthrough and Im just looking for answers. I dont feel anything when we kiss or have sex. Ask her if shes willing to go ice skating with you I also would get angry at her for little things and I emotionally hurt her every time we fought. Hed tell me he was busy at work while I could see he was less busy with her. 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